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Living in Sin: Up or Down?

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Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually curious. You can see her column in print, too, in the LA Alternative Press. Ask Jen your questions: all are posted anonymously.

Dear Jen,

I have a question, and since you're a chick I can pretty much guess which side you'll be on, but in hopes that you can be somewhat diplomatic, I want to ask you: why is it that guys are expected to put the toilet seat down, when it would be just as considerate, and easy, for women to leave it up for us?

- 2 Sides To Every Toilet Seat

Dear 2 Sides,

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I can see why this is somewhat of a mystery to you, since you don't sit down every time you use the toilet. But as someone who has more than once scraped the bottom of the bowl with her ass due to the seat being up when I sat down, I will cast my vote for the ladies (I have a friend who actually got stuck in there once. It took two people and a bar of soap to wriggle her out). So yes, we could just as easily leave it up,
but you don't have as much to lose by mistakenly doing your thing with the seat in the wrong place. It's like putting a rollerskate in the middle of the floor — you could just as easily put it in the closet, but if you don't, someone could very possibly land on their ass.

I also think it just looks better since the lower rim is oft covered with wee wee.

And in general, it's just one of the many sweet, gentlemanly ways to say, "I care about your butt."

photo by Nika via flickr