Living in Sin: Package envy
Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice for LA's sexually curious. e-mail Jen your question, which will be posted anonymously.
Dear Jen - My wife and I had a threesome involving another man and she was pleasured by him in a way I've never seen her be before. It was so good, she ended up leaving me for him, but, to make a very long story short, we recently got back together because we realized how much we loved and missed each other. Since then, things have been going very slowly. We had a wonderful experience recently, but it didn't compare to that night with him. I fear that she will be disappointed and am determined to learn how to be an amazing lover. I also wonder if there is a size problem.I can give her clitoral orgasms, after which she likes a "quickie" and I wonder if it's because I'm smaller than he was that she just wants to get it over with. She assures me that size isn't a problem, but I have been pondering natural penis growth techniques. Is there something I can do to make her want intercourse more, or am I stuck with quickies for the rest of our marriage? What can I do to assure a pleasurable experience for both of us?
The only size problem here the size of the gaping hole in your self-esteem. This whole experience really frizzizzled something deep in your core (understandably), and you need to focus on fixing that, not on adding some bang to your bulge. Please get yourself some therapy, and bring your wife with you. If your feelings of inadequacy and your trust issues with her aren't dealt with, your relationship is going to be in deep doo doo.