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Living In Sin: I want a girlfriend, Daddy, and I want her NOW!

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Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually confounded. Sign up for her newsletter and have it sent to you every week. Ask Jen your questions: all are posted anonymously.

Dear Jen,
I'm a 32 year old lesbian and I've been single for most of my life. I really want to meet someone, but I can't stand going to bars and almost all my friends are straight. I get set up on dates every once in a while, but it's usually just with some girl who happens to be queer, not who happens to have anything in common with me. My straight friends mean well, but it's getting frustrating.

I also don't fit in to the lesbian community so well, what I know of it. I'm not political or very "lesbian identified." I'm just a woman who likes other women. What can I do to put myself in a better position to meet someone without making myself miserable?
- Fish out of Water

Dear Fish,
I know what you mean. I really want to get in shape, but lying around in bed playing with my stomach roll is so much more my style than doing sit ups. I'd also like to have a buttload of money, but work? What the hell? Bore Ing.

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Everyone has to do things they don't necessarily want to get what they want. Who ever said finding someone to love was going to be a barrel of fun? And why is it your friends' responsibility to do this for you?