Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually confounded. You can see her column in print in the LA Alternative Press, or have it sent to you every week by signing up for her newsletter. Ask Jen your questions: all are posted anonymously.
Dear Jen,
My boyfriend and I live in a suburban town and are pretty much the token gay couple in our neighborhood. We're friends with this straight couple in their fifties, and whenever he has a few too many at one of our parties, he flirts with us like crazy. His wife's a good friend of ours, and we're wondering - should we tell her her king is a queen, or risk having her find out the hard way?
- Tattle Tale
Dear Tattle,
Do you ever do that thing where when you're talking to someone with a British or Australian accent, you suddenly find yourself speaking with a touch of a foreign lilt? Especially when you're drunk? Or when you're with people who are dressed really nicely while you're freeballing it in sweatpants, you kinda want to snazz it up a bit? Or when you're with a group of people who are snorting tons of blow and shooting off guns, you.......
We all have many facets to our personalities, and it sounds to me like cocktails at your place is the only time Mr. Suburbia ever gets to let his pretty side shine. He may indeed be gay or bi or whatever, but unless he crosses the line and reaches for your meat, I don't see any reason to run and tell Mommy. It won't do anything other than make her feel lousy, and will most likely put an unnecessary wart on your friendship. If it makes you uncomfortable, you should talk to him, not her. Besides, if he's that much of a flirt, chances are very good she's well aware of it already, and it could be a sore spot. Sticking an unsolicited nose in other people's marriages is never a good idea, and should only be done in case of emergency, which this is not.
