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Living In Sin: Breaking Up Is So Easy to Do

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Sex is something that drives us, empowers us and gets us into really stupid situations with people we have no business seeing naked. Jen Sincero is the bestselling author and sexpert with the carnal knowledge you need. Ask her your questions (all are posted anonymously). Cuz there's no such thing as being too good in bed.

Dear Jen,
My relationships all tend to follow a frustrating pattern, something along the lines of:
1) Meet guy and decide I want him.
2) Get him.
3) Lose interest in him.
4) Stay in the dying relationship for way too long before finally breaking it off.
5) Start dating new guy and, when interest in him fades, begin thinking about the last boyfriend constantly, and missing him a lot.
6) Break it off and meet new guy.

I also tend to plan escape routes from every relationship before they even begin to go bad, usually centered around moving or travel or something. And I stay in some sort of contact with my exes, on a friendly level. Is this a fear of commitment?

It seems to be getting to the losing interest point in my current relationship, but I don't want to check out again only to regret it in a few months. Plus I really like this guy, I just don't know how to be present when it matters. What is this cycle and how might I break it?
- One Foot Out the Door

Dear Foot,
I was talking to a porn actress the other day about her hopes, her dreams and why this particular career path called to her. “The money,” she shrugged. “And the fact that my mother is a twat.” Apparently her mother had pretty much left her on her own her whole life, and when she was around, she either berated her or ignored her. So although her latest DVD touted her as a hot horny bitch who craved giant monster meat, in reality, she was there so satisfy a different craving, one more along the lines of: Hey ma, look! My vagina! In your face!