Living In Sin: As the Vagina Turns
Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually confounded. You can see her column in print in the LA Alternative Press, or have it sent to you every week by signing up for her newsletter. Ask Jen your questions: all are posted anonymously.
I am a 34 year old straight male and I've been dating a woman for just over a year who is 16 years older than I am. She's Chinese and looks very good for her age, but the problem is, she doesn't seem to enjoy having sex for long periods of time. She gets excited, and says she has orgasms, but if it goes on for longer than, let's say, fifteen minutes, she's almost begging me to stop. She says she can't take it, that it's too much for her. She says she is not the most sexual person, and that a kiss from her lover is enough to satisfy her. I've found myself almost falling in love with her, and really would like to have a long term relationship, but I'm not sure if our love making would be an issue. Can you please offer some ideas?
-Looking for Ancient Chinese Secret
I heard a while ago that Dr. Ruth and some other sex lady have been traveling the country consoling older women who are being traumatized by the Viagra craze. Think about it. "Used to be Howard and I would knock back some Metamucil and hunker down for a few rounds of Scrabble before putting our teeth in a cup and crawling off to bed. Now I'm waking up with that thing in my face all hours of the night. Gotta sleep with one eye open around here these days." These poor women don't know what's hit them, and even though Viagra has been a household word for years, there is still very little awareness about the effects of age on women's sexual pleasure. Wait, they forgot about women's pleasure? Wait, really? No, wait. What?
Ok, so aside from the fact that women over fifty might want to continue having rocking sex lives too, isn't it kind of dumb to get the guys all dressed up and then leave them with nowhere juicy to stick it? My hope is that maybe, now that aging women's sexual issues are affecting men, it'll bring more attention to them.