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Living In Sin: A Green-eyed Monster Stole my Wiener

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Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually confounded. Sign up for her newsletter and have it sent to you every week. Ask Jen your questions: all are posted anonymously.

Dear Jen,
My girlfriend has been asking for your book, "The Straight Girls Guide To Sleeping With Chicks," ever since it came out, and I finally got it for her for Christmas. She's very open about her bisexuality, but she says she's never been with another woman.

We've been together for about four years, and in that time I've realized that I'm also bisexual. She's an insanely jealous person, she can't even handle the idea of me being attracted to anyone else, let alone another man. She gets mad when I hint that I wouldn't be mad if she were to sleep with another woman and I guess it's because she thinks that if I don't get jealous like her, that means that I don't love her. She doesn't know that I'm also interested in guys, although I guess she probably suspects it. She wants to get married and have kids, and I want that too, but I can't go my whole life without ever getting to experiment with another guy.

I don't know what to do. I don't think that she'd break up with me if I told her I'm bi, but I think it would have a negative affect on our relationship, and on our sex life.
- Two Bi Two