Sex Week: Hit Me (Baby) One More Time
Photo by Alternative Photography via Flickr
When I first sat down to write about BDSM for newbies, I figured that I'd wind up with some sort of simple list; you know, 1. Handcuffs. 2. Dog collar. 3. Light smack across the face.
But how naive I was! BDSM, which is a complex acronym that stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadism and masochism, actually isn't about getting turned on by, say, the feel of something being wrapped around your neck. "The essence of BDSM play is a power exchange," says Ann-Marie Holman, Press Liaison for Syren and JT's Stockroom. "You play with giving one person more power or complete power, and the other person less...or at least, trying to create that illusion psychologically."
Now, I haven't tried much BDSM myself, but that is a lot fucking hotter than I thought.