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Living In Sin: Dude Looks Like a Lady

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Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually confounded. You can see her column in print in the LA Alternative Press, or have it sent to you every week by signing up for her newsletter. Ask Jen your questions: all are posted anonymously.

Dear Jen,
I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and the other day I came home early and caught him trying on my panties. He told me he'd been doing it for about a year, and I totally freaked out. I felt like he'd somehow been lying to me. It made me feel icky, and now I don't know what to do. I love him, but don't feel like I can trust him. He swears he just has a thing for panties, that he's not gay or a drag queen or anything, but even that is a bit much for me. I honestly find it disgusting. How can I get him to stop?
- Put Off By The Panties

Dear Panties,
Poor men. Women get to wear pants, ties, blazers, strap on dildos - and now they're even making girl versions of boy panties with fake pee pee trap doors in them. Meanwhile a guy can't walk down the street in a skirt without leaving behind a wake of giggles, or very probably even getting beaten up. The only time they get to cross dress with reckless abandon is if they're queer. Or in a band. It's not fair. If I was a guy I'd probably have a panty fetish too. They're so smooth and silky and sexy compared to tired old boxer shorts. The poor guy was probably feeling frustrated and left out of the fun. Wanted to get his ya ya's on. Who can blame him?