Every week in Living in Sin, Jen Sincero provides advice to LA's sexually confounded. You can see her column in print in the LA Alternative Press, or have it sent to you every week by signing up for her newsletter. Ask Jenyour questions: all are posted anonymously.
Dear Jen,
I recently started sleeping with a woman who can squirt. This was a first for me. In a good session, I can get her to squirt twice and a lot each time. It feels so right. Any downsides? Is there some reason more women don't seem to do this? Is there some way I can tell in advance (other than asking) if a woman can squirt? Does advancing age or menopause stop the ability to squirt? I'm pleasured but puzzled.
- Squirtaholic
Dear Squirtaholic,
My Mom told me that the first time she took me out on Halloween, we knocked on someone's door, I screamed trick or treat like I was told to and then nearly fell over when a nice lady dropped some candy in my bag. Free candy! For no good reason? AND I get to wear a rabbit costume? I had no idea. I couldn't believe the human race could come up with such a brilliant idea. I was floored.
It sounds like you've just been introduced to something equally as earth shattering - squirting AND I get to have sex, too?! I love your enthusiasm, especially since so many people are freaked out by female ejaculation. The only downsides are that the afore mentioned freakout makes a lot of women feel self-conscious. I've also heard of women getting headaches immediately afterwards or being worried that they've accidentally pissed all over the place. And then there's the massive wet spot.
Age and menopause have nothing to do with it, other than the drop in hormone levels which can make women less interested in sex all together. The fluid comes from the urethra (scientists are still working around the clock to figure out just what it's made of) so it's unrelated to aging.
And as far as spotting the squirters...you are kidding, yes? Learning what people are packing in their pants is like opening a Christmas present. The surprise is part of the fun. But if it's that important to you, and you're with a willing lady, she can learn how to do it if she's never done it before. For more info, check out websitses like:
http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/ejacula.htm
http://www.joanelloyd.com/fbejac.htm
