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Odd Future's Frank Ocean Reveals His First Love Was With A Man

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Early this morning, Frank Ocean, the R&B singer-songwriter and member of Odd Future, posted a note on his Tumblr site, explaining how he fell in love with a man a few years ago:

4 summers ago, I met somebody. I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost. And on the days we were together, time would glide. Most of the day I'd see him, and his smile. I'd hear his conversation and his silence ... until it was time to sleep. Sleep I would often share with him. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless... It was my first love, it changed my life. Back then, my mind would wander to the women I had been with, the ones I cared for and thought I was in love with. I reminisced about the sentimental songs I enjoyed when I was a teenager..the ones I played when I experienced a girlfriend for the first time. I realized they were written in a language I did not yet speak. I realized too much. Too quickly. Imagine being thrown from a plane. I wasn't in a plane though. I was in a Nissan Maxima, the same car I packed up with bags and drove to Los Angeles in.

I sat there and told my friend how I felt. I wept as the words left my mouth. I grieved for them, knowing I could never take them back for myself. He patted my back. He said kind things. He did his best, but he wouldn't admit the same. He had to go back inside soon. It was late and his girlfriend was waiting for him upstairs. He wouldn't tell me the truth about his feelings for me for another 3 years. I felt like I'd only imagined reciprocity for years. Now imagine being thrown from a cliff. No, I wasn't on a cliff, I was still in my car telling myself it was gonna be fine and to take deep breaths. I took the breaths and carried on. I kept up a peculiar friendship with him because I couldn't imagine keeping up my life without him. I struggled to master myself and my emotions. I wasn't always successful.

Before writing this I'd told some people my story. I'm sure these people kept me alive, kept me safe ... sincerely, these are the folks I wanna thank from the floor of my heart. Everyone of you knows who you are ... great humans, probably angels. I don't know what happens now, and that's alrite. I don't have any secrets I need kept anymore. There's probably some small shit still, but you know what I mean. I was never alone, as much as I felt like it ... as much as I still do sometimes. I never was. I don't think I ever could be. Thanks. To my first love. I'm grateful for you. Grateful that even though it wasn't what I hoped for and even though it was never enough, it was. Some things never are ... and we were. I won't forget you. I won't forget the summer. I'll remember who I was when I met you. I'll remember who you were and how we've both changed and stayed the same. I've never had more respect for life and living than I have right now. Maybe it takes a near death experience to feel alive.

Thanks. To my mother, you raised me strong. I know I'm only braved because you were first ... so thank you. All of you. For everything good. I feel like a free man. If I listen closely ... I can hear the sky falling too.

Ocean's Odd Future co-hort Tyler the Creator Tweeted, "Fucking Finally Sus Boy @frank_ocean Hahahaha, You Still Aint Got No Bitches Hahaha My Nigga Dawg" The Daily News notes that questions about Ocean's sexuality comes "after a writer from BBC1 Xtra's Max wrote a review pointing out his use of the pronoun 'him' instead of 'her' on several tracks on his upcoming album 'Channel Orange.'" The
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LA Times reports, "The announcement is rare in the world of male-dominated hip hop and R&B, which has long struggled with sexual intolerance, and homophobic lyrics have often gone unchecked... So by making the announcement, Ocean, who has penned songs for, among others, Beyonce, Kanye West and Jay-Z, has become one of the first high-profile male R&B singers to acknowledge his love for a man -- although, it should be stressed, never in his statement did he use the word 'gay' or 'bisexual.'"

And Russell Simmons commended Ocean, "Today is a big day for hip-hop. It is a day that will define who we really are... I am profoundly moved by the courage and honesty of Frank Ocean. Your decision to go public about your sexual orientation gives hope and light to so many young people still living in fear... Frank, we thank you. We support you. We love you.