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Jen Sincero is a sexpert, musician, and the author of the bestselling book, The Straight Girl’s Guide To Sleeping With Chicks and the semi-autobiographical novel, Don’t Sleep With Your Drummer. She currently hosts the weekly sex talk radio show Dr. Happypants on Every week in Living in Sin, Jen provides advice for LA's sexually curious.

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This past Sunday I loaded up my trunk with a bunch of dildos, dental dams, and a velvet vagina hand puppet, and headed out to San Bernadino to teach yet another one of my bicurious workshops. I've been teaching these classes to women all over the place ever since my book came out last year, and every single one has been amazing. It's so inspiring to meet people brave enough to expand their horizons, plus I always learn something new from my students - did you know that there's a sex club out in San Bernadino where you can lounge around outside by a firepit, get your whole body painted, and sit back and sip your cocktail, while watching some nice lady get the high hard one in the corner? If you can get past the name, Freedom Acres, and the mental image of a barnyard, it sounds like a party. I couldn't believe that San Bernadino so one-upped L.A., but, as they explained, there's nothing else to do out there. It's one hour away people. One hour away.

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This week, I've decided to share some of my experiences, because this last class was particularly eye-opening. Plus, if you're curious, I have another workshop this weekend in West Hollywood at The Pleasure Chest, for women only.

In keeping with my usual Q & A style, I'm going to answer the two most common questions I get about my work.

What is a bicurious workshop?
I teach people things like how to flirt, meet other chicks, use a dental dam, spell out the alphabet with their tongues, wield a strap-on, and juggle four boobs at once. I also explain that an ass is only as fat as you say it is, and that, contrary to common belief, the clit is shaped like a wishbone, not a balloon knot. There is no squatting over hand mirrors in my classes, although I do hand out a vag-o-gram, which is a graphic drawing of a woman's genitalia, frontal and side view, complete with spread legs and muff. This is the very same handout that jammed the copy machine at Kinkos so badly that two barely legal male employees had to spend ten minutes fixing it, and another fifteen trying to engage me in conversation long enough to get my number.

Find out who shows up after the jump.

Who shows up?
Women who are curious about sleeping with other women, and women who've already slept with other women who want to up their games, scam on their classmates, watch me make balloon hats out of blown up condoms, etc. It's also for women whose husbands want them to sleep with other women. Sometimes these husbands eagerly wait in the parking lot for 2 hours, no doubt with their ears pressed up to a cup against the door, while their wives are inside. It's usually a really varied mix of people - married, single, old, young, chatty, terrified. My San Bernadino class was all married women, which was very unusual. They were mostly looking for a female third to bring into their relationships, and nearly everyone wanted someone they could befriend because, "sometimes you don't feel like eating pussy or anything, sometimes you just want to go shoe shopping." One lady even recognized another student as a friend of her daughter's, that apparently her daughter had suggested she meet since they both liked the ladies. They exchanged numbers after class. I was so impressed. I gave them an A.

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If you're too shy to go to Jen's workshop, you can ask her a question.