LAist: When Staring Isn't Enough

Johnny

Mon, 03 Dec 2007 17:23:22 -0800

Maybe he was GAY? I don't know thought I'd be the one to throw it out there since no one else did.

Johnny

Mon, 03 Dec 2007 17:21:45 -0800

Maybe he was GAY? I don't know thought I'd be the one to throw it out there since no one else did.

Carrie Meathrell

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 18:44:01 -0800

dudes, idea for a new feature!!! LAIST MISSED CONNECTIONS people are you hearing me???

Flannel4Life

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 18:06:17 -0800

Hey April, I believe you are talking about me. I wasn't staring, I have a lazy green eye. Tell your friend to carry cash. Thanks, Lazygreeneyedloverman

Emoney

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 18:00:16 -0800

april smear, if this person was by the pool table at little joy, with black glasses, brown hair, and a red flannel shirt, i think i know who you're talking about. email emily@indieclick.com for more details.

Elise Thompson

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:43:43 -0800

April, I'm just a text away.

rms81

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 13:02:06 -0800

I'm guessing Little Joy. A shithole, yet haven of cute hipster boys, pool tables, a decent juke box and the dreaded cash only bar.

Emoney

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 10:03:37 -0800

Can you tell us what bar were you at?

April Smear

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 09:51:52 -0800

Elise, you're such a wealth of information. Can I take you wherever I go?

Elise Thompson

Wed, 28 Nov 2007 01:52:41 -0800

There is too much info missing. Was he alone? Was he playing pool? A guy can't always just up and leave. Maybe some guy was standing near you and he thought it was your boyfriend. Since you had no drink, maybe he assumed your boyfriend was getting you one. After the eye-fucking, you could also have moved on to stage two of nonverbal flirting - tilt your head and raise your eyebrows, like "Well?" Or lift your chin and move your hair to expose your neck. Toy with the collar of your shirt. Laugh and crook your finger at him. And wasn't there ANYTHING on the other side of him, like say the bathroom, or the juke box that you needed to check out? Maybe you needed to look at the chalkboard to see how many people were waiting for pool games? You don;t have to walk right up to him, but proximity helps. You can meet him half-way. At some point he has to get a drink or use the bathroom. Good time to happen to walk past. And hey, where did your friend go? Aren't you looking for your lost friend? Good way to wander the room aimlessly, and if he catches your eye, say, "Have you seen mt friend? She's a brunette in a red sweater?" Nice opening for him to know you're alone. OR, maybe he sees your girl obviously cadging drinks and thinks you are up to the same game. Oops. Next time instead of cadging for drinks, wander around asking cute guys where the ATM is. Then at least if they offer to buy your drink since there is no cash machine it's all on the up-and-up.

hipsterorbum

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 23:02:32 -0800

Your friend is my hero!

gingerous

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 22:58:52 -0800

He probably figured that a woman at "the shittiest dive bar off of Sunset Blvd" wasn't worth meeting.

sempraenergy

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 17:45:46 -0800

Maybe you're ugly.

tomdog

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 15:11:10 -0800

Yeah, I much prefer a woman to talk to me. I've heard too many female friends "complain" about some guy "coming up to them out of nowhere" and trying to talk to them. I'd like to not be one of those guys.

blazingshark

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:39:38 -0800

wakeupkeo- i'm not opposed to seeing some pix sneakyemail at gmail.com

blazingshark

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:39:27 -0800

wakeupkeo- i'm not opposed to seeing some pix sneakyemail@gmail.com

wakeupkeo

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:35:39 -0800

Blazing Shark, You are a Saint

impesc

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:34:10 -0800

No guy I know, myself included, would be upset with a girl initiating a conversation. Whats bad is when the girl is ultra aggressive to the point where they are being controlling (the guy will think you're just looking to get laid or be put off and lose interest - sorry, its generally true). Its sounds like you and your friend were at the extremes. Don't approach everyone and their mother, but don't just sit around and wait for something to happen either.

damian_z

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:30:38 -0800

He might have just been in it for the eye-fucking. Or more than likely he had a girlfriend. Why is it that women don't get approached in a situation like this that they assume it is because the guy doesn't have "a pair"? At any rate, if you'd made the move, no matter what happened after, you wouldn't be wondering about it all now. Guys, overwhelmingly, don't "hate that shit".

blazingshark

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:22:03 -0800

if you want it.. go after it. i'm a super aggressive chick and i pretty much feel if i go up to a guy and he shoots me down- he couldn't handle me anyways. i have met many very attractive guys who are still shy/insecure from the awkward school days..it would be a shame if i let them miss the tour of my bedroom.

thedarkocean

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 13:17:11 -0800

Too many people act pretentious when flirting. I understanding playing a little hard to get, but I notice people act disinterested when they're interested. We need more honesty in flirting out there.

wakeupkeo

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 12:36:54 -0800

Yeah, who told you men don't like agressive women? That whole crap about guys having to talk first is crap. I can talk to women, and I consider myself attractive, but I like the women better that come after me- granted they are usually crazy but they are also usually fun- and better in the sack! Your friend who was fishing for drinks make guys gunshy about hitting on every girl we get a look from, so if you want something you better just go get it!

Carrie Meathrell

Tue, 27 Nov 2007 12:24:34 -0800

he probs has a girlfriend. otherwise, I think guys *do* dig being chased. every boyfriend I've ever had I've gone after like a wild thing. it's worked out well.