LAist: Was I Making Out With a Gorgeous Gay Guy?

guest

Fri, 28 Sep 2007 17:23:25 -0800

Okay, so I'm experiencing a very similar issue. I just jumped online and googled "why can't he get an erection," and found your page on the top ten. I've been hanging out with this guy on a pretty consistent basis for over a few months period time, obviously I'm into him. I've made the assumtion that he's into me too. Anyways, the first time we tried to have sex we were both a little "screwed up." We had just finished skinny dipping in the pool and decided to jump in the shower to warm up afterwards. We began kissing one thing led to another and still he could not get it up, I even tried going down on him. His excuse was that he was just too messed up, so i let it go. He slept over that night and in the middle of the night he started feeling my body and kissing me, I thought to myself maybe he wants to try again. We preceeded and he got hard and started to have sex, but I wasn't really feeling it so I decided to get on top. It had only been a minute or so and he softened up. I then, again, just let it go assuming it was just not going to happen. Honestly, this wouldn't bug me so badly if it had never happened again. It did again and again. What is the deal??? I'm thinking, "stop trying to sleep with me if your not in to me or if your a homo." I'm not trying to make an ass of myself, but I know I am an attractive girl and I am the last person to obsess over something so rediculous. I typically would disregard and move on. This is just weirding me out so badly, I almost want him more and I want to know what his deal is more than anything. Not that this helped you one bit, but a little insight. Maybe this will make you feel more comfortable in not knowing either...

ishXdavid

Thu, 23 Aug 2007 12:19:25 -0800

I'm not an expert or anything, but I went through something similar a few years ago. I had gotten out of a serious relationship and began dating prolifically. It felt good at first, but I couldn't shake the empty feeling of so many one-night stands. Eventually it reached a point where I couldn't get it up and I became self-conscious about it. Then I started being overwhelmed by the anxiety of being unable to perform that I was practically D.O.A. in the bedroom. It was such a bad thing to go through because the complete devastation of confidence permeated every other facet of my life. It wasn't until I met my girlfriend now whose considerate patience and openness got me back in the saddle. I think you might be reading too much into this as this may really have nothing to do with you, and it really is just him. It makes great writing inspiration though.

hulahoney83

Mon, 06 Aug 2007 09:10:15 -0800

I can't think of any reason why a gay guy would want to lick a girl. But then again, I'm not a gay guy. An honest conversation about the lack of an erection should be had, then repeated to his doctor to get a prescription for something to help it out... medicine works wonders!

hipsterorbum

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 13:18:57 -0800

He's a total homoriffic!

guest

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 12:40:55 -0800

Have you had a conversation with him about this? Outside of the bedroom? If not, perhaps it's time to do so. Also, keep in mind that not every man's sexuality is via his cock. For any number of reasons, he could prefer providing you with pleasure via his mouth, hands, etc. This doesn't make him gay. (Is that really what you're thinking after he's licked you? Come on!) It just means that he may express himself sexually differently than you expect. Maybe he's physically incapable of erections. Or, you could just be so weirded out by him not getting hard that you terrify the poor guy. In any case, talk to him. If he's happy, and you're happy, have fun. At least he's taking care of your needs, and seems not to want much in return.

realist

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 01:36:34 -0800

so maybe he's got a little Brenda in his Walsh... Did you ever Donna his Silver?

guest

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 01:32:07 -0800

Fred, was that a real attempt at advice? -Torch

fredcamino

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 01:17:55 -0800

He's probably not gay, just needs a hot girl. You should think about going on a diet. Some guys don't like a "thick" girl (I do, but this isn't about me). I've heard good things about "The Zone". On the other hand, maybe he prefers a thick ass and you're just too skinny. In that case, things get a little bit harder. I'd say eat lots of corn bread and do squats to bulk up the ass. Stay away from weigh-gain powders, they are a scam.

guest

Sat, 04 Aug 2007 22:41:03 -0800

Im not gonna lie, I just became completely aroused by reading this, no later than the 4th paragraph!. But unfortunatly I look more like Dillon. This guy has no excuses, move on. torch myspace.com/torchmcclouchee

guest

Sat, 04 Aug 2007 22:24:46 -0800

He's gay. You're fine. Move on. Next!